A few years back I wrote about the Yellow Car Syndrome over at one of my t’other blogs. Yes, plural. As in, many.
In that instance it was about the subjects of a running book. Today I want to revisit the theme, but on a parenting front.
Back in June I wrote about my meanderings through a change in parenting style from command and control to a more respectful and peaceful type. It should have come as no surprise to me that I would begin to spot those ideas everywhere now that I have embraced them as my guide. But it did.
A short digression. I have taken up a sabbatical from BookFace. I needed to. The support groups are fabulous, but a serious time-stealer. So I am currently in time-recovery mode.
My point is this… what do I do with my recovered time? Amongst other things, I plan to read. Books. Blogs. My university course textbook. <<aargh>>
So today I picked up where I had long ago left off in my blogosphere of reading and started with a perennial favourite, but lately ignored, Zen Habits. Never been to hear from Leo before? You really should visit, there’s bound to be some pearls of wisdom you can pick up.
I made my way through a few of the recent posts until I hit on Parental Zen: How to Keep Your Cool as a Parent, and lo and behold, my Yellow Car Syndrome strikes again.
There, repeated for my pleasure, are many of the tenets that I am trying to put in to practice in my own home. I love his first point, It’s not about you.
We parents tend to take kids’ bad behavior personally, as if what they’re doing is a personal attack on us or our belief systems, a personal offense. That’s why we get mad.
And there are plenty more, succinctly put points that had me nodding to myself all the way through. And being a bit of a part-time geek-on-the-side, I particularly loved the Star Wars reference around guidance rather than dictatorship.
Imagine being Yoda (the mentor) instead of Darth Vader (the death-grip dictator).
If you were even a smidgen intrigued by the idea of a gentler, but still effective, style of parenting then this is a nice entry post for that.